COUPLES THERAPY
The quality of your intimate relationship is one of the best predictors of overall health and happiness. When you have a secure home base with a partner where you feel seen, heard, and close, it enables you to more easily endure the challenges of life.
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When your intimate relationship is characterized by resentment, persistent unresolved conflicts, and emotional distance, your emotional and physical health are impacted. Without a safe home base, the stress of the external world is often heightened and it impacts one's self-worth.
I work with couples at every stage of life whether it's preparing for a deeper commitment or marriage, dealing with the ups and downs of long-term commitment and family life, exploring separation, divorcing with integrity, and respectful co-parenting. I act as an impartial advocate for the health of your relationship, and I'm committed to maintaining a climate of safety and respect as we work together.
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Combining my years of practical experience with the cutting-edge, best practices in the field of couples therapy, I'm able to create an individualized treatment plan to support growth in your relationship. The focus is getting to the root of the deeper issues and dynamics to create lasting change, increased intimacy, and more joy in your lives.
I find the dynamics of Relational & Sexual Polarity Theory to be incredibly effective and allow me to create dramatic change in even the most challenged couples. The principles form an accessible framework for couples who yearn for emotional and sexual depth. These principles apply to all couples regardless of sexual or gender identifications. These principles can even cut through dynamics where couples feel blocked and don't have the words to describe when something is out of alignment that's creating distance and lack of intimacy. The pioneers of this theory come from men's work coaches such as David Deida and John Wineland, and it's rare to find couples therapists who work from this emerging framework. I have been studying this topic for several years, and I'm at the forefront of licensed therapists who are bringing this important work to the mainstream.
I also utilize classic techniques from Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy pioneered by the research and practice of Dr. Sue Johnson to help couples figure out where they are getting stuck and create insight, cooperation, and resolution to decrease resentment and hopelessness. I weave in concepts from Attachment Theory to understand the way each partner's template for love was formed by caregivers and early relationships. This enables healing from insecure attachments which are commonly characterized by either anxiety or avoidance. The goal is to create a safe, secure attachment where these fears and defenses are minimized and each partner is able to transcend the wounds of the past. Investing in your relationship is one of the most powerful ways you can improve your life and build the shared vision of the future you desire.